The recent shootings in Minneapolis involving federal immigration agents have shaken communities across the country. Many adults are asking the same question they ask whenever violence enters the public space: How do we talk about this with youth without making them feel unsafe or overwhelmed?
It is natural to want to protect them by saying less. But silence often creates more fear than truth. When we do not talk, young people are left to make sense of what they are seeing on their own, often through social media and rumor.
Tragedy can leave youth feeling sad, angry, confused, worried, or numb. Some may feel unsettled in ways they cannot yet put into words. There is no single “right” reaction. What matters most is that they do not feel alone with it.
What Helps Most
First, create space.
Invite youth to share what they are thinking and feeling. Listen without interrupting or minimizing. Let them know their emotions are valid, even when they are hard to hear.
Be vulnerable.
When adults acknowledge their own feelings in healthy ways, it gives youth permission to do the same. You do not need perfect words. Your presence matters more.
Be mindful of what they are taking in.
Constant news and social media can overwhelm the nervous system. Encourage breaks when you notice they are becoming flooded or shut down.
Let them lead the conversation.
Ask what they already know. Answer honestly, without offering more detail than they need. Their questions will guide you.
Keep connection at the center.
Encourage time with friends, mentors, and trusted adults. Feeling supported centers them.
Offer ways to contribute.
When youth feel helpless, small acts of care and service can help them feel grounded again.
Pay attention to shifts.
If you notice ongoing sadness, withdrawal, or major behavior changes, additional support may be needed. Counseling can be a powerful resource.
There is no quick way to process tragic events. But when we stay present, keep listening, and lead with compassion, we help youth feel safer and steadier in an uncertain world.
They do not need perfect answers.
They need us to show up.